Comments on: Three For Thursday – Lost Count Edition http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/2009/10/15/three-for-thursday-lost-count-edition/ Scribe For The Tribe - Mindful living while raising Triplets Mon, 08 Mar 2010 17:44:01 -0800 hourly 1 By: Matt Forness http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/2009/10/15/three-for-thursday-lost-count-edition/#comment-1297 Matt Forness Fri, 16 Oct 2009 23:03:50 +0000 http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/?p=870#comment-1297 Forgot to add one thing about getting additional, in-home support. Consider a postpartum doula. We have already contracted with one to come out for 4 hr appointments, once a week, for the first 6 weeks. They will help out in any way they can: being with the babies so the parents can rest, cleaning, cooking, whatever is needed. Consider it. Whatever you do, I feel strongly that you guys should get as much support as you can now. Forgot to add one thing about getting additional, in-home support. Consider a postpartum doula. We have already contracted with one to come out for 4 hr appointments, once a week, for the first 6 weeks. They will help out in any way they can: being with the babies so the parents can rest, cleaning, cooking, whatever is needed. Consider it. Whatever you do, I feel strongly that you guys should get as much support as you can now.

]]> By: Matt Forness http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/2009/10/15/three-for-thursday-lost-count-edition/#comment-1296 Matt Forness Fri, 16 Oct 2009 22:48:21 +0000 http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/?p=870#comment-1296 Hey Charley I'm sorry that I always am writing things for you to do/try. I hope it doesn't come off wrong, I just want to help. I think that what would most help for you guys is to get your extended family over often and for extended periods of time. Do you have a guest room? Maybe your Mom could come over one night a week to help and stay over night...and then Aunt Donna could pick a different night. Try to come up with a schedule. Maybe a friend could come over once a week and cook you dinner. You have potentially a lot of support nearby, don't be shy, ask them strongly if they can help. Hang in there guys, Matt Hey Charley

I'm sorry that I always am writing things for you to do/try. I hope it doesn't come off wrong, I just want to help. I think that what would most help for you guys is to get your extended family over often and for extended periods of time. Do you have a guest room? Maybe your Mom could come over one night a week to help and stay over night…and then Aunt Donna could pick a different night. Try to come up with a schedule. Maybe a friend could come over once a week and cook you dinner. You have potentially a lot of support nearby, don't be shy, ask them strongly if they can help.

Hang in there guys, Matt

]]> By: Kristin Martin Reppi http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/2009/10/15/three-for-thursday-lost-count-edition/#comment-1291 Kristin Martin Reppi Fri, 16 Oct 2009 10:42:56 +0000 http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/?p=870#comment-1291 Oh-- I wish I lived closer so that I could help you guys out. It is awful to have a baby unconsolable; it makes you wonder why you can't make them stop or why you aren't comforting them. My daughter had problems at first, but hers was gas due to being lactose intolerant. once we changed formulas, she did great. I know some doctors don't want to change things, but I know I sometimes did things with my daughter that they didn't necessarily recommend. Unfortunately, your case is a little different due to the babies health conditions from being so premature. Hang in there. The first month or two are the hardest (and i say that since the babies just came home, not because of their age). Once they and you get into a better routine, it should get better. Bella may be still adjusting to everything. Have you tried playing some music for her? Get out your guitar and sing to her. Maybe she has your interest in music! I'm glad Owen seems to be doing well. One down, three to go! I hope Noah's surgery happens and things go smoothly so he can join his siblings. Maybe Bella misses him... Hang in there. Just remember to look at them when they are sleeping. That's when they are truly little angels. Oh– I wish I lived closer so that I could help you guys out. It is awful to have a baby unconsolable; it makes you wonder why you can't make them stop or why you aren't comforting them. My daughter had problems at first, but hers was gas due to being lactose intolerant. once we changed formulas, she did great. I know some doctors don't want to change things, but I know I sometimes did things with my daughter that they didn't necessarily recommend. Unfortunately, your case is a little different due to the babies health conditions from being so premature. Hang in there. The first month or two are the hardest (and i say that since the babies just came home, not because of their age). Once they and you get into a better routine, it should get better. Bella may be still adjusting to everything. Have you tried playing some music for her? Get out your guitar and sing to her. Maybe she has your interest in music!

I'm glad Owen seems to be doing well. One down, three to go!

I hope Noah's surgery happens and things go smoothly so he can join his siblings. Maybe Bella misses him…

Hang in there. Just remember to look at them when they are sleeping. That's when they are truly little angels.

]]> By: Aja Springs http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/2009/10/15/three-for-thursday-lost-count-edition/#comment-1288 Aja Springs Fri, 16 Oct 2009 07:07:14 +0000 http://www.scribeforthetribe.com/?p=870#comment-1288 Sounds like a tough time right now... I can hear the battle in your words. As a mother of a baby who had a rough start in life.. it is difficult Charles knowing what Bella has already been through and to know she is crying for something and she can't tell you.. you can only speculate..diaper? food? gas? pain? remember she vibes off your energy. its tough when your sleep deprived but you and Nichole are working together to manage. don't be afraid to ask for help... call on your friends and family to do a few loads of laundry.. go to the grocery store... make a lasagna - whatever. Life right now is not going to be what it was prior to birth, or even when one of the babies was home, and its okay...because it will all get better in time. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Little Bella, I see you peaceful, comfortable and smiling. Sounds like a tough time right now… I can hear the battle in your words. As a mother of a baby who had a rough start in life.. it is difficult Charles knowing what Bella has already been through and to know she is crying for something and she can't tell you.. you can only speculate..diaper? food? gas? pain? remember she vibes off your energy. its tough when your sleep deprived but you and Nichole are working together to manage. don't be afraid to ask for help… call on your friends and family to do a few loads of laundry.. go to the grocery store… make a lasagna – whatever. Life right now is not going to be what it was prior to birth, or even when one of the babies was home, and its okay…because it will all get better in time.

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Little Bella, I see you peaceful, comfortable and smiling.

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